by Marcinho Savant
The nation has, at long last, caught up with the pioneering twenty countries in the world to recognize the rights of two consenting adults, to enter a marriage contract with one another. Shockingly, neither of those nations were obliterated from existence for embracing equality. There was no great armageddon. Fairness conquered fear. The sun has continued to rise.
I have been blessed with the opportunity to orchestrate so many weddings for LGBT couples from all around the world, but while I made their dreams come true, they were all just a façade, legally. They had all the "bells and whistles" of a traditional wedding event, but it pained me to know that it didn't count in the eyes of the law. It was a wonderful cake--- but with no icing, if you will.
"...Social justice is sometimes slow, and then there are days like this, when that slow, steady effort is rewarded with justice that arrives like a thunderbolt...It's a victory for America... today, we can say we made our union a little more perfect.”
-President Barack H. Obama, 6.26.15
I had always hoped that America would do what was right in the eyes of the law, civility, humanity, and fairness. I wasn't convinced that I'd see it in my lifetime. Thankfully, I was mistaken. I am ecstatic for the twenty-somethings who got equality today! Now a half-century old, I mourn that my best years, and marriage proposals have withered on the vine while waiting.
So many of my couples NEEDED the protections which legal marriage provides. Some of them were ill, some dying, others attempting to raise children, and create forever families. Then people like Laurel Hester, whose life partner was IGNORED, and denied the right to speak for Laurel regarding health/life decisions, or to receive her estate. This country owes Mr. Jim Obergefell, Mr. Aaron Huntsman, Mr. Lee Jones, and the dozens of other plaintiff couples who stood up, at great personal peril, to institute motion for the achievement of equality. My tears are, also, for those couples who suffered in silence and fear, voiceless, and oppressed, who can now breathe free, and equal.
Marriage equality has been one of the most terrifyingly brutal issues America has faced in quite some time. LGBT families were decimated by bigotry, and (frankly) hate. Having been active in the marriage equality fight as a member of national, and state equality groups, I have seen an immense amount of life stories, case studies, and real-life issues that people faced, merely seeking their constitutionally assured right to find happiness. Thank GOD that justice always, eventually, wins out.
Who do we serve?